Sole Searching is intended and designed to generate and create serious thinking and deep consideration regarding one’s beliefs, motivation and driving force to finally move yourself to the next level.
Maybe It’s Not The Hard Work At All
“Remember your dreams and fight for them. You must know what you want from life. There is just one thing that makes your dream become impossible: the fear of failure.” Paulo Coelho
Maybe it’s not necessarily the hard work that scares us. Somewhere in our lives we did the necessary hard work to get where we are today; sports as a kid growing up, great grades in school, college challenges, preparing for our jobs and employment, raising a family or building on relationships. Just maybe what scares the heck out of us is what we possibly may become – Successful.
Fear of failure haunts us all, like a small child afraid to go into a dark room, not knowing what they may find. It’s real, I get it. Are we looking for a guarantee? Maybe, just maybe, all the necessary hard work we decide to take on doesn’t pay off; we don’t get the girl, we don’t get the promotion, our business fails, we don’t make the team, we don’t finish in the top five in our age group during my triathlon. Bob McDonnell summed it up well saying; “Are we a nation of guarantees or are we a nation of opportunities to achieve the American Dream?” And, that American Dream can be whatever we deem it to be.
Jason Silva, a media artist, philosopher, keynote speaker, television personality and producer of amazing short and impactful you-tube videos nailed it precisely when he produced Live Without Fear. We Fear our own greatness. What we glimpse in our most perfect moments, hints at what we might become. And it’s like we lack the courage to take that chance. We lack the conviction to become who we might be, and yet anybody who has ever achieved anything worthwhile has stepped so radically outside their shell, comfort zone that we cannot help but bow in reverence. But why don’t we take their example and apply it in our own lives? Why don’t we realize that the path to transcendence is to shed our old skin? You know if I have seen this in myself, I feel like my disposition is timid. I feel like I’ve dealt with the constraints of excessive self-consciousness, fear and angst, and yet in my most perfect moments I’ve moved beyond my shell. I’ve tapped into something, cliché as it might sound, larger than myself. And, it is when this happens that your greatest work emerges. You are willing to be surprised and then you are like: “Wow, maybe I don’t have to be scared all the time. Maybe everything is going to be okay. Maybe my hyper-vigilance is uncalled for here. If we could live without fear, God I don’t know. If we could live without fear, then man, we’ve won.
“It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.” Theodore Roosevelt